Change is a constant in life, as hard as it is. Logically, I know that this is a good thing, that without change nothing would get done. Forget sitting around in mud huts, if we never changed, we would have never crawled out of the primordial stew. It is only when we change that we can grow and develop.
I know this, but lately, I’ve been looking at the lives of my friends. When you live in a college town, and are surrounded by people who stubbornly refuse to grow up and graduate already, this is the time of year for change. People are graduating, moving, getting married, quitting the crappy jobs they worked to pay for school and getting real jobs in their chosen professions. It’s all a bit overwhelming, and it’s not even me who’s doing the changing. Even the end of the semester–changing classes, having to meet a whole new set of people, and not going to sit with the friends that I’ve made over the past few months seems a little overwhelming. I don’t want to make new friends, I just want to keep the ones I have.
To make matters worse, I’m also painfully aware of the consequences of not changing, namely being 30 years old, single, unemployed, and doing school the way I should have ten years ago. Refusing change equals stagnating, and I lost most of my twenties to stagnation.
So, onward and upward to better and brighter things. Or something like that. I know that change isn’t always–or even usually–bad. But still…
I am a person who craves stability. I dislike change, especially when it’s not on my terms. I think that’s why being unemployed has been so rough on me, my future is literally in the hands of others. It wasn’t my idea to get laid off, and it certainly isn’t my idea if and when I get called in for interviews. I hate the way I’m living now.
The thing is, I feel like this is a time of change big change for me, and I’m not just talking career-wise. Events have unfolded in the past month or so, that speak of a future that I’m both excited for and terrified of. If things work out the way I hope, then this could be the best thing for me.
Unfortunately, with the being scared of change thing, I’ve been running away from this potential change–I just don’t know how to handle it.
I know that I need to take control of my own life–that if I don’t direct my path then I won’t go anywhere–at least anywhere worth going.