Twenty-four hours from the time I write this, I’ll officially be back in school.
I’m more than a little freaked out at this process–I’m not looking forward to being surrounded by little 18-year-olds just out of high school.
I’m trying to remain calm, I really am, but the anxiety hit me like a ton of bricks about an hour ago.
Hopefully, I can get this freak-out taken care of today, and tomorrow, I’ll be calm and serene.
The thing is, I know I have to go. This isn’t like church, where I have a lifetime to overcome my fears and anxieties, I’m actually paying good money to be surrounded by teenagers. And, as much as it sucks, getting out and being around people really will help with the anxiety–when I was working, I did get panic attacks, but I didn’t let them overwhelm me, I could excuse myself for a few minutes and go to the bathroom to calm down, but then I had to get back to work. School should do the same thing, right?
WordPress unveiled a new feature called Zementa that’s supposed to make adding pictures and links easier. I haven’t decided if I like it yet, but I’m trying it out for a bit.
- Panic Attacks and How to Overcome Them (mindbodyfitness.suite101.com)
- just please don’t tell me to calm down (ask.metafilter.com)
Something amazing happened today. I mean, besides the fact that I was able to check Facebook and email from the comfort of my own home. I actually made it to church.
I was thinking about it last night, and decided not to plan on going–which relieved the stress of planning to be around a bunch of people. I decided that I should go, but I wasn’t going to make myself go.
AND even though I woke up only a half hour before church started, I managed to get dressed, take the dogs out, and make it. I even stayed for all three meetings, more or less.
When I came home, I discovered that my roommate had slipped out even earlier than I did, and was making curry–crazy thing, my Taiwanese roommate makes amazing Asian food. She was even able to explain that it was a Japanese style curry, a little sweeter and a lot more mild than, say, Indian curry.
Church and curry would have been enough to make this day amazing, but the icing on the cake came when I checked my registration status at school, and saw that I could register for a class I was wait-listed for. Which brings my class load up to a whopping 10 credit hours–and the classes I’m taking on campus are each once a week, one on Friday and one on Saturday, but it’s a class that I need to continue on with my schooling.
I did also discover that in order to play the games that I’ve been suffering withdrawals from, I’m going to need a new graphics card. I think I’ll wait on it, though, either until I find a job, or ask for it for Christmas. School will probably go a lot smoother without being distracted by the Sims.
So, yeah. I’ve had a great day. Things are starting to go much smoother.
Although, when I have to get up to be on campus at 8am on Saturday mornings, I might just change my mind…
I wish I could say that the lateness in today’s post is because I was off doing something amazingly fun, but alas, that isn’t the case.
Yesterday, I went to my sister’s house to help her get ready for the third (and hopefully last) birthday party that G has had this year. Unfortunately, I felt like I was more of a hinder than a help.
Halfway through a frustrating task that should have been very simple, I felt a panic attack coming on. I excused myself, and tried to go outside–which of course is G’s favorite place to be, as long as he has an audience. And look! Aunt Cori trying to keep her sanity is a perfect audience!
All of my instincts were screaming at me to get home–right during rush hour. Sis, wisely, didn’t let me leave. She explained to G that I was going into time out, and couldn’t be bothered, and had me go into her guest bedroom, and try to relax.
I made it home safely–it’s a good thing I like to drive, and don’t mind traffic if I’m not in a hurry, but today…well, it’s been rough.
I had found a gift card for a local movie theater in my wallet that I’d had for three years. On the back, it said it didn’t expire, and the website verified that I still had the original $25 on it. I tried to make it to a movie, but couldn’t make it out of my parking lot. I then thought that maybe I could go to the aquarium–I like the aquarium, and it might be nice to be able to take my time. Yeah, the realization that it was Saturday, and would thus be full of kid stopped me.
I’m worried about what’s going to happen when school starts in a couple of weeks. I can’t go to school if I’m so agoraphobic.
At the moment, I’m only registered for three classes, and one of them is online–I am wait-listed for two more classes, I’m number 1 on the wait-list for one class, so I’ll probably get in to it, and number 24 on the other, so I have a little less hope for getting in to that one. I guess that starting slow might just be the best thing, easing myself, and the dogs, into the idea of being out of the house for long periods of time on a nearly daily basis.
Speaking of the dogs–I’m not the only one at my house suffering from severe anxiety. Lulu’s been pretty stressed, and therefore clingy with all the thunderstorms we’ve been having, and she’s really not used to me going out without her. When I was trying to make it to the movie theater, I was fighting to even get down to my car, and I could hear Lulu scratching at the door and barking, because I had the nerve to go outside without her.
One of the classes that I’m taking is yoga–I’m going to try to take a PE class every semester. I might as well use this going back to school thing to get in better shape, right? I hope that a) I’m not too fat to do yoga, and b) that it will help me learn to control my anxiety.
I did decide that I need to spend more time outdoors, even if it’s just on my balcony. Sitting on my balcony, surrounded by my potted plants (in various stages of life, I’m either hit or miss with plants, they either thrive or die) without a book, without a computer, without anything to distract me (besides keeping Max from playing watchdog) is very relaxing.
I hope that when school starts, I can get into a routine, and things will calm down. Because I don’t know how much more of this I can take.
It’s funny how inspiration works, when I was sans computer, and thus couldn’t update my blog, I was getting all sorts of ideas for posts. Upon getting it back, however, my brilliant ideas seemed less brilliant.
I spent yesterday fighting. Mostly with myself, which was a bit odd, because I was fighting for myself. See, I’m the kind of person who doesn’t like to ask for help. (Really, B-I-L and Jon. I feel horrible when I ask you to help me) Even if the person I need help from is paid to help me (store clerks, for instance) I’m hesitant to ask for help.
I finally made it in to see my advisor yesterday, except, she wasn’t my advisor. Really, I shouldn’t be surprised, that’s how this whole going back to school thing has been for me. Still, she was able to take the hold of my record so hypothetically, I can register for classes–after waiting so long that there’s a very good chance I’m not going to get in to the classes I need.
But, I got my bus pass figured out, and I know who my advisor is now, and, after the system recognizes that my major has been changed to the one I actually want, and I still can’t register for classes I know who to talk to.
Today was destined to be a bad day when, after finally getting to sleep around three, I was awakened two hours later because Lulu was scared of the thunderstorm that was rolling through. And two hours after that because she needed to go outside. Which pretty much describes my day.
There’s part of me that wants to put “The Storyteller Chronicles” on hold until further notice–until my life becomes more interesting, or less interesting, or I have more to write about, or whatever.
Another part of me chimes in and says “No, dammit. Corianne, you’re not going to give up just because things are getting hard. You WILL find something to write about, it WILL be interesting, and you WILL enjoy it.”
At which point the rest of me blows her nose, whimpers because that hurt her ears, and goes back to bed.
From the shoulders up, I’m feeling much better, actually. My ears have gone from constantly hurting to a dull ache like when you travel up in the mountains, and they need to pop, but won’t. I felt good enough to join my sister in meeting Mom in a park a half hour away from my house–kind of a mid point between where Sis lives and Mom lives, for a picnic, and to pick up some stuff that Sis needs to take her family camping. With my ears feeling better, though, my stomach has started to hurt. I’m hoping that it’s either a) the constant stress in my life that’s been put on the back burner since I got an ear-ache re-manifesting itself, or b) the gunk from my ears draining down the back of my throat into my stomach, the way it should.
I guess I spend too much time reading Free Range Kids, but I marveled at the fact that it didn’t take G long to be surrounded by a group of five boys (and one girl) all close to his age playing together. Granted, they all wanted to hit the mini punching bag Mom had brought, but still…
I’m glad there’s a place, and people in the world who will let kids be kids.
It was good to gather with the family, even if the weather was less than cooperative. We ended up moving our picnic inside of Mom’s car–you know, when the wind started blowing down branches big enough to knock a man out.
I’m getting more and more excited about going back to school. I want to start classes, its just…I hate getting bogged down in the administrative stuff. And I tend to let the little stuff you have to do before you do the big stuff keep me from doing the big stuff. Crazy I know.
Apparently, I suck at reading official documents.
I knew that when I applied to SLCC that I’d have to take a test. I apparently overlooked the part of the admissions application for UVU that said I had to take a test there, too.
So, a month of (not) preparing for school later, I re-read the acceptance email I got, and found out that yes, in fact, I do have to take a test. Crap.
The test was to make sure I didn’t need remedial math or english classes, which, I’m happy to report, I do not.
I’m not thrilled with how I did, but mostly that’s because I’m a good test taker. I’m especially confused at my dissapointment in my english scores, because they were quite literally off the charts.
Of course, I’m the girl who was disappointed when she took standardized tests in elementary and high school, and got lower than a 90th percentile.
The math section was first–I would have done much better if the english section was first, but, what can you do? The proctor told us that there were up to four increasingly difficult sections, and, your score would determine if you moved on to the next section. I did three, although, I was just guessing on most questions towards the end.
Part of it was knowing how to take a test. For instance, one of the questions was something along the lines of “Charlie has 60 minutes to complete a test that has 75 questions. How many questions should he plan on answering in each 10 minute interval to complete the test?”
The meta nature of story problem about a test aside, I could look at the multiple choice answers and see that there was only one that was above 10, and therefor was the one that was correct. There were other questions where I guessed which of the multiple choice answers was most likely to be correct, then plugged them into the equation to figure out if they indeed worked.
A few other questions I found interesting, if for all the wrong reasons. One was something along the lines of “Catherine is making a 9 square lap quilt. She needs 1 1/8 yards of dark fabric, 1 3/4 yards of light fabric, and 1 3/4 yards of backing. How many total yards of fabric does Catherine need?”
And of course there isn’t any place to answer that what Catherine really needs is a new pattern, because the one she has either produces a lot of waste, or she won’t have enough fabric for the back of the quilt.
Near the end of the math section, right before my brain shut down completely (actually, this might just have been the moment it shut down completely) the question was regarding finding the area of a circle. The question explained that A=πr² and, reading that in my head as “area equals pi r squared” I had that stereotypical breakdown of “pie sounds good right now. I want pie.”
The english section was much easier, and thankfully free of questions regarding the elements of grammar. Because, frankly, I don’t know the difference between a participle and a gerund, but I know how to use them. Heck, there are days when I struggle to remember which words are the verbs and which are the adjectives.
I don’t really know what my scores mean, I’ll have to talk to an admissions advisor for that. After, you know, first figuring out who my admissions advisor is and where to find his or her office.
Honestly, just going out and taking this test was huge for me. I don’t like people, and I don’t like being put on the spot. Today I faced both.
I had the thought the other day that I’m tired of being afraid all the time. I’m tired of not being able to go anywhere or do anything because there might be other people there. I was thinking about this, and the scripture popped into my head “perfect love casteth out fear” (1 John 4:18). So my scripture study for the past few days has been about courage, and overcoming fear. Which has been interesting, because I spent a lot of time studying those exact topics on my mission, so I have insights noted in the margins of my scripture that I forgot I had.
I know that I’m not going to overcome my fears without facing them head on, but often times, it’s that first step that’s the hardest. I’m grateful for family members who will encourage, support, and kick me when needed to take that first step. I really am blessed.
And I’m still craving pie.
I was happy an hour ago.
This afternoon, I went up to my sister’s house, I needed to take care of my ticket (by taking care of my registration before paying the ticket, they knocked 25% off the fine), and I needed to return a Buzz Lightyear toy that G left at my house, and Sis convinced me that I needed to see E crawl, a skill he learned yesterday. (He hasn’t figured out that he can move one hand at a time, so he’ll pick both hands up, causing him to do a nose dive, scootch his knees forward, then do it again. It’s hilarious!)
It didn’t take much talking to convince Sis to go shopping for school supplies with me–I’ve decided that I’m going to UVU, and have started on the process of getting my acceptance finalized, and the credits that will transfer transferred, and I know there’s a few things that I’d need no matter what, namely, a backpack, notebooks, and pens and pencils.
On the way home, I was thinking about what a big step this is, and a conversation I’d had earlier in the day, and my confidence started to slip. I thought about my previous attempts at school, the train wreck that is my emotional life, and money. Always that stressor, money.
I know that avoiding doing for fear of failure, or making a mistake is not living life, neither is being so afraid of conflict that I let other people dictate my every move.
On the drive home, I noticed a few billboards for Intermountain Health Care that had slogans like “Turn anxiety into confidence”. I know the message that they were trying to convey was along the lines of “Medical issues are scary. Our staff is knowledgeable, and will educate you so your disease or the disease of your loved ones is less frightening” but I took a more personal message from it–that I really do need to turn my anxiety about life in general into confidence.
I wish I knew how.
One of the things that I was noticing more was all the ads, all the signs that surround us on a daily basis. Every single ad, every billboard, every package of every product was designed by a graphic designer or artist (some of them were me–I used to work in a sign shop, and I took a detour on my way home from work, which lead me past a couple of signs that I designed). One of the things that I’ve worried about, and have had worried about to me was the availability of work. Mom, I’m going back to school to make it easier to find work. There are jobs–and hopefully, by the time I graduate, I’ll be able to find a company that needs an in-house designer, or an ad agency that’s hiring, or something else.
And it’s what I love doing, and that makes all the difference, right?
It’s been stormy the past few days, and I’ve wondered if that’s had an affect on my mood–I think it has, but not directly. The dogs were crazy yesterday, and I was mad at both of them, but, according to the book I’m reading now (Inside of a Dog: What a Dog Hears, Sees and Knows) that was likely because the higher winds were kicking up all sorts of new and exciting smells. Today, the rain has calmed everything down, including the dogs.
The other thing is my bad hip has been aching constantly–again, likely due to the changes in the weather, and it’s hard to keep a positive outlook when you hurt so badly you think you’re going to throw up.
I really am trying to stay positive, even if I’m prone to crying at random moments (most of the time it has nothing to do with the moment I’m actually in–but rather something I’m thinking of.) What happens next is too important–I can’t blow this.